Thursday, September 28, 2017
In most healthy marriages, both the husband and wife enjoy physical intimacy. There was a time when women were taught to “endure” their husbands’ advances, but thankfully we have grown past that archaic mindset and into the realization that God designed sex in marriage to be pleasing to both spouses.
And yet, a lot of men still complain about their wives’ lack of interest in physical affection and sexual intimacy. What’s the problem? I have found that many men simply do not understand how they might influence this indifference or lack of desire.
As a psychologist, I have spoken a great deal with men and women on the subject of marital intimacy, so I hear both sides of the story. It is rare that someone’s marriage is affected by all ten of these turn-offs, but they are common enough that you might recognize yours in one or two of them.
Dr. Linaman is a psychologist and executive coach providing counseling and professional development services to individuals, couples, work teams and organizations.
Monday, September 26, 2011
While preparing for an upcoming speaking engagement on the topic of overcoming regret I came across a recent study by Mike Morrison of the University of Illinois and Neal J. Roese of the Kellogg School at Northwestern University. According to this study, men were more likely to identify regrets associated with work whereas women identified regrets linked to love relationships.
When responses from the survey for both men and women were combined, regrets involving romance were the most common (18.1%), followed by family (15.9%), education (13.1%), career (12.2%), finance (9.9%), and parenting (9%).
Everyone has regrets. Sadly, millions of people are held captive by the guilt and shame that often accompanies regret because they don’t know how to let it go. If you struggle with the pain of regret read my article on Real Change: Letting Go of Regret.
Live, Work and Relate Well!
Source: Regrets of the Typical American: Findings From a Nationally Representative Sample
Dr. Todd is a licensed psychologist, executive coach, published author, and national conference and seminar speaker. He has been a featured expert on national and local radio talk shows and television news programs.