Thursday, February 14, 2019

How Do You Say “I Love You”?

Love LanguagesWalk into any variety store and it will be obvious that Valentine’s Day has become a commercial extravaganza. Red cards, boxes and candies are everywhere! Love is in the air, along with high expectations and, to be candid, a real possibility of disappointment if the message of love isn’t sent effectively.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Your Greatest Investment

Greatest InvestmentI will never forget attending the funeral of a man I had known for over 25 years. One by one, people shared stories of how he had touched their lives. His 75 years on this earth were well recorded with memories of his generosity, kindness, loyalty and love. As I glanced over to see how his wife was holding up I could see that she was filled with joy to hear how her husband’s greatest investments in life were paying off.

When we hear the word “investment” we automatically think in terms of money. However, there are other things in life we can invest with the hope of experiencing a significant return. Far too many people find themselves at the end of their life realizing that those things they invested their time, talents and resources in had little, if any, meaningful impact.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

A Day for Celebrating Love

LoveToday is the day that sweethearts and spouses celebrate romance and give gifts to one another in an effort to show their love. And according to jewelry, fragrance and candy companies, you better go big or go home… alone. It often seems like designating one day a year for declaring and expressing love puts a lot of pressure on people.

I enjoy Valentine’s Day, actually, because my wife and I celebrate our anniversary at the same time. For us, Valentine’s Day is a celebration of the whole previous year of our marriage, in which we worked together, hammered out disagreements together, parented (and grand-parented) together, prayed together, laughed and played together and helped one another through the days when one of us was sick, tired, or grouchy. For us, Valentine’s Day is a fresh, new year of growing closer to one another and facing the daily grind together.

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

The Key to Excellent Health

healthPeople go to great lengths these days to get healthy. Americans spend billions of dollars on the latest workout equipment, health clubs, vitamin supplements and special diets (not to mention all the specialized clothing, shoes, and accessories). Don’t get me wrong; I am 100% in favor of people making the effort to take care of their physical health. No one would argue that we can all benefit from watching what we eat and getting plenty of exercise, but there is another key ingredient to staying healthy that many people overlook. One of the most important components of overall health is connection to people you love.

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Newtown, Connecticut Tragedy – Love Well!

Today is a very sad and somber day in our Nation as we grieve the loss of the 20 children and six adults who were murdered Friday in Newtown, Connecticut.

This tragic event is a shocking reminder of just how quickly and unexpectedly we can lose the people we love.  We pray that something good will rise out of the ashes of this horrific event.

As we wait to hear the eventual stories of healing and recovery, we can immediately commit to demonstrating affection and care to those whom we love and cherish most.

Where ever your family and friends may be today, let them know what they mean to you and how much you love them.  If they are close by, give them a hug and vow to never take their precious life for granted.

Please pray for all who grieve today and for the family and friends of those who died and whose lives will be forever changed.

Love Well!

Dr. Todd

Monday, September 26, 2011

Love and Romance Top List of Regrets

While preparing for an upcoming speaking engagement on the topic of overcoming regret I came across a recent study by Mike Morrison of the University of Illinois and Neal J. Roese of the Kellogg School at Northwestern University.  According to this study, men were more likely to identify regrets associated with work whereas women identified regrets linked to love relationships.

When responses from the survey for both men and women were combined, regrets involving romance were the most common (18.1%), followed by family (15.9%), education (13.1%), career (12.2%), finance (9.9%), and parenting (9%).

Everyone has regrets.  Sadly, millions of people are held captive by the guilt and shame that often accompanies regret because they don’t know how to let it go.  If you struggle with the pain of regret read my article on Real Change: Letting Go of Regret.

Live, Work and Relate Well!

Dr. Todd

Source: Regrets of the Typical American: Findings From a Nationally Representative Sample

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Are You Still Angry?

Intimacy is the fuel that powers every couple’s emotional engine.  Without it, your marriage is likely to end up stalled in the middle of the highway of life.  If you want a sure formula for killing intimacy in your relationship get angry at your spouse and never let it go.

Many couples experience a lack of intimacy in their marriages because of the negative emotions they harbor toward their spouse.  I once counseled a woman who would not let go of the anger she felt toward her husband because of a mistake he made in their marriage over 40 years ago.  She chose to live a miserable life rather than to forgive him.

You may be wondering what has happened to the joy and closeness you once shared in your marriage.  Is it possible that you are holding on to bitterness and resentment toward your spouse because you have felt abandoned or betrayed? Perhaps it is time to let go, forgive and move forward.

When you choose to release yourself from the bondage of unforgiveness, your heart and mind are once again open to giving and receiving love.

Live, Work and Relate Well!

Dr. Todd

Monday, August 30, 2010

Your Greatest Investment

Not long ago I attended the funeral of a man I have known for over 25 years. One by one, people shared stories of how Steve had touched their lives. His 75 years on this earth were well recorded with memories of his generosity, kindness, loyalty and love. As I glanced over to see how Steve’s wife was holding up I could see that she was filled with joy to hear how her husband’s most important investments in life were paying off.

When we hear the word “investment” we automatically think in terms of money. However, there are other things in life we can invest with the hope of experiencing a significant return. Far too many people find themselves at the end of their life realizing that those things they invested their time, talents and resources in had little, if any, meaningful impact.

As you go through life, give thought to where you are placing your investments. Are you spending time with your family? Do you help those less fortunate then yourself? Are you compelled to correct injustices? Do you consistently demonstrate forgiveness, compassion and love in tangible ways? It’s important to remember that a life lived selfishly will leave little evidence that it ever existed, but one that is invested in the lives of others will reap returns that can last an eternity.

Live, Work and Relate Well!
Dr. Todd