Friday, May 31, 2019
Finding the perfect position is only the beginning of job satisfaction. Have you ever heard someone say, “I’d like my job if it weren’t for the people I work with”? One of the greatest challenges in the workplace is getting along with other people. It hardly matters if someone is the best and brightest at what he does if he creates dissension in the office.
Regardless of whether someone is hired to lead or be part of the team, it is the ability to establish functional and healthy workplace relationships that can make or break their success and job satisfaction.
Dr. Linaman is a psychologist and executive coach providing counseling and professional development services to individuals, couples, work teams and organizations.
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Unfortunately, I have some experience with poison – specifically rat poison. I hate to admit it, but I once accidently poisoned our wonderful family pet beagle, Whiskey. The poison was intended for the vexatious mice that were chewing through the storage boxes in our shed, but being the novice exterminator that I was, I placed the poison where our dog could find and eat it. Despite our veterinarian’s best efforts to reverse the ill effects of the poison, our family friend didn’t survive.
Thankfully, you will likely never poison your family pet, but did you know it’s possible to poison yourself and your relationships without even being aware of it? Nearly every day I talk to men and women who are either engaged in or hurt by behaviors that are a form of relational poisoning. Today, I want to address the relational poison of gossip.
You would be hard pressed to spend a day in any office building and not be exposed to some form of gossip. Gossip involves the spreading of rumors or information about others. Although there can be sociological benefits associated with some forms of gossip, today I want to address the epidemic problems associated specifically with malicious gossip.
Think of the number of famous people you have heard about in the news who report having had their reputations and lives seriously injured by malicious gossip. The numbers are staggering and the damage done often irreparable.
Although the person sharing malicious gossip may attract people who take delight in hearing about the misfortune or bad choices of others (whether true or not) they are often oblivious to the fact that their credibility, trustworthiness and character are being seriously undermined.
As a gossip, you will never experience the depth of intimacy with others that you really desire