Wednesday, September 10, 2014
“I hate my job because it’s consuming me; I miss my life and I can’t remember what it’s like to feel good. I wish I could just escape to a deserted island in the middle of nowhere!” Can you relate?
In today’s faced paced, hyper-competitive and tough economic times, a growing number of men and women are experiencing the painful effects of burnout. According to a CareerBuilding.com report, 77 percent of employees claim they feel burnout related to their jobs. In another national poll, over half of the respondents reported that they were less productive at work because of job stress.
Thursday, September 4, 2014
Every day we are bombarded with television, radio, internet and newspaper headlines and stories that draw our attention to natural disasters, economic uncertainty, wars and other tragedies that serve to trigger distress and worry in many people.
Did you know that 53.4% of the news on television alone depicts violence, conflict and suffering? The worse the report, the more likely it is to be the lead story because humans are naturally attracted to bad news.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
Most people have at some point in their lives had to deal with someone who refuses to lose. No matter how unreasonable their position and how obviously wrong they may be, they clamp down their jaw as instinctively as a bull terrier in a dogfight – and it seems nothing short of death will loosen it.
It’s often not that complicated to deal with this sort of person at a dinner party, where the simplest strategy may be to avoid them or to feign agreement for a couple of hours until you can escape after dessert. But in the workplace this is seldom possible, and if the bulldog is your superior, you can come away from discussions frustrated, angry and hurt.
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Step One: Give them responsibility without authority – Many of us have had this experience: You find an item in a store that’s marked down to a sale price. The clerk scans the bar code and the regular price pops up on the screen. You point out that the item is marked with a lower price, and get “the look”. It’s the look that means, “There is nothing I can do about this. I have to go by what the register says or I get in trouble. And, before you ask, my manager is at lunch.” While you are rightfully annoyed by the snafu in your purchase, stop for a minute to put yourself in the shoes of an employee who is perfectly able to see the problem – i.e. the clearly marked sale price – and has no authority to do the right thing because the machine hasn’t been updated. There they stand, helpless, frustrated and directly in the crosshairs of your glare.
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
If you ever suffer from insomnia and find yourself watching late night infomercials, chances are you have been tempted by products that are “guaranteed” solutions for aging well. Many people today are obsessed with trying to discover anti-aging secrets in nutrition, exercise, skin care, strong relationships, and the list goes on, in an effort to stay young – or at least young at heart.
Recent research conducted by the University Medical Center Hamburg-Eppendorf in Hamburg, Germany, reports evidence that suggests if you want to age well you may need to learn how to effectively let go of regrets.
Thursday, August 14, 2014
No man is an island, according to poet John Donne. While we strive as individuals to shoulder our responsibilities, solve our problems and achieve our goals, the fact remains that we are always interconnected with other people. In a workplace team environment, the success of each individual and the success of the team are inextricably intertwined. That’s why it is important to make an effort toward building a healthy team dynamic.
Last time I presented the first 5 of 10 tips for team building success, so we will look at the last 5 today.
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
The Apprentice television show revolved around the premise that a stable of young talent is trying to get a job with Donald Trump. In their endeavors they are challenged with weekly assignments. Be a leader. Sell product. Manage people. Ultimately, their goal is to win. But along the way the most successful candidates also learn something else – that a good team greatly enhances your personal success.
Whether you are responsible for one person or a whole team, there are several very important keys to managing people well. If you are a manager, review the tips below and assess how you’re doing and whether or not you can identify areas for improvement.
Thursday, August 7, 2014
Author, Judson Edwards, identified several universal principles that great communicators practice on a regular basis. Although the principles he identified are excellent, I have made some modifications to his list. In addition, I have also contributed several of my own thoughts in order to speak more clearly about the personal communication and relationship difficulties you may face on an every day basis. I am convinced that if you consistently apply these principles you can become a great communicator both at work and at home.
Live, Work and Relate Well!
1. Agree more, argue less
Contentious people are simply more difficult to get along with. While you may have strong opinions (and may be right much of the time), it will not matter if it comes across as combative or argumentative. Learn to respect people’s ability to have their own opinion and beliefs. Be understanding, forgiving and gracious in your dealings with others. Know that often, the most important thing is not to make sure people know you are right.
Friday, August 1, 2014
If you can think and talk, and if you ever come in contact with other people, there is the potential for conflict. Conflict is an inevitable, completely normal part of the human condition, yet most people readily admit that they intentionally avoid anything that even remotely resembles disagreement or confrontation. In fact, much of my work in relational counseling and coaching involves helping people to understand – and even embrace – the value of conflict and overcome the fears that feed their aversion.
There are a number factors that can influence conflict avoidance, such as self-doubt, lack of assertiveness, inadequate communication skills, fear of rejection, disapproval, criticism, loss of security and more. In other words, people avoid conflict in order to minimize perceived threats to their self-esteem and sense of well-being.
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
Do you want your personal and professional relationships to be stronger and more satisfying? If, like most people, your answer is “of course”, then I want to share a very powerful communication tool that has the potential to transform your relationships.
I refer to this communication tool as the Sherlock Strategy. Named after the famed detective, this practice of effective inquiry simply involves the ability to ask timely and relevant open-ended questions for the purpose of increasing accurate understanding of another person’s thoughts, feelings and needs. The great Sherlock Holmes could always dig past the obvious to see what was really going on.