Tuesday, September 30, 2014
In the business world we often hear terms and strategies for doing business that are predatory, aggressive and even deceptive in order to make the sale or increase profits. Words like shark, war and guerilla come up in the vernacular. But I’ve been watching people over the years, and find that, in the long run, people who are willing to cheat or compromise often lose out on true success. People who do the right things for the right reasons have more satisfying careers and happier lives.
So, let’s explore this a little further: Have you ever met someone that you consider to be, or to have been, a really good person? I would imagine that you could probably name at least a few. What character traits do you think describe a “good” man or a good woman in our society today? Perhaps words such as kind, thoughtful, generous, giving and unselfish top your list. If so, I would agree – these are traits we would all expect a good person to possess, but there’s got to be more to it – and there is.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
We have all heard that the majority of marriages end in divorce, and if you believe what you hear, you may think the tradition of marriage is doomed. But I recently read the research published by Shaunti Feldhahn based on census statistics and many other sources. In her book, The Good News About Marriage, she and her research assistant, Tally Whitehead, dig deep into facts, figures, trends, and urban legends about the state of marriage today.
The full scope of marriage research is too overwhelming to summarize in a blog post, so today we will look at two significant statistics about women that give us reason to hope.
Saturday, September 20, 2014
In my previous blogs we talked about the causes and symptoms of burnout, the importance of thinking differently and some ideas to revitalize your life to help break the burnout cycle.
In this final blog we will talk about Strategy#3: Recommit.
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
In my last blog I suggested that the first strategy for dealing with burnout is to Refocus. It’s important to move your gaze from the quagmire of stress and over-commitment and gain a new outlook. I urged you to think about how you think and shared some books that have helped me and a lot of others.
Today we will talk about Strategy #2: Revitalize.
If you neglect to put gas in your car you will soon find yourself stuck on the side of the road. The same is true of your body. If you neglect your legitimate physical needs – sleep, nutrition, and physical activity – you will burn out quickly.
Saturday, September 13, 2014
In my last blog I described some ways to determine if you may be experiencing burnout from your work and stresses. If you’re already struggling it can be difficult to muster up the energy to constructively address the problem when you are exhausted, but things are not likely to change if you don’t. As overwhelming as it may feel right now, there are strategies you can use to improve your situation and regain control of your life.
Today we will look at Strategy #1: Refocus.
Wednesday, September 10, 2014
“I hate my job because it’s consuming me; I miss my life and I can’t remember what it’s like to feel good. I wish I could just escape to a deserted island in the middle of nowhere!” Can you relate?
In today’s faced paced, hyper-competitive and tough economic times, a growing number of men and women are experiencing the painful effects of burnout. According to a CareerBuilding.com report, 77 percent of employees claim they feel burnout related to their jobs. In another national poll, over half of the respondents reported that they were less productive at work because of job stress.
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
Most people have at some point in their lives had to deal with someone who refuses to lose. No matter how unreasonable their position and how obviously wrong they may be, they clamp down their jaw as instinctively as a bull terrier in a dogfight – and it seems nothing short of death will loosen it.
It’s often not that complicated to deal with this sort of person at a dinner party, where the simplest strategy may be to avoid them or to feign agreement for a couple of hours until you can escape after dessert. But in the workplace this is seldom possible, and if the bulldog is your superior, you can come away from discussions frustrated, angry and hurt.
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Step One: Give them responsibility without authority – Many of us have had this experience: You find an item in a store that’s marked down to a sale price. The clerk scans the bar code and the regular price pops up on the screen. You point out that the item is marked with a lower price, and get “the look”. It’s the look that means, “There is nothing I can do about this. I have to go by what the register says or I get in trouble. And, before you ask, my manager is at lunch.” While you are rightfully annoyed by the snafu in your purchase, stop for a minute to put yourself in the shoes of an employee who is perfectly able to see the problem – i.e. the clearly marked sale price – and has no authority to do the right thing because the machine hasn’t been updated. There they stand, helpless, frustrated and directly in the crosshairs of your glare.
Tuesday, August 19, 2014
If you ever suffer from insomnia and find yourself watching late night infomercials, chances are you have been tempted by products that are “guaranteed” solutions for aging well. Many people today are obsessed with trying to discover anti-aging secrets in nutrition, exercise, skin care, strong relationships, and the list goes on, in an effort to stay young – or at least young at heart.
Recent research conducted by the University Medical Center Hamburg-Eppendorf in Hamburg, Germany, reports evidence that suggests if you want to age well you may need to learn how to effectively let go of regrets.
Thursday, August 14, 2014
No man is an island, according to poet John Donne. While we strive as individuals to shoulder our responsibilities, solve our problems and achieve our goals, the fact remains that we are always interconnected with other people. In a workplace team environment, the success of each individual and the success of the team are inextricably intertwined. That’s why it is important to make an effort toward building a healthy team dynamic.
Last time I presented the first 5 of 10 tips for team building success, so we will look at the last 5 today.